Be Deaf..... ......Be Positive.!!!!

Value of Relationship - (Temper can Hamper the Relations)

Once upon a time there was a little boy who was talented, creative, handsome, and extremely bright. A natural leader. The kind of person everyone would normally have wanted on their team or project. But he was also self-centered and had a very bad temper. When he got angry, he usually said, and often did, some very hurtful things. In fact, he seemed to have little regard for those around him. Even friends. So, naturally, he had few. “But,” he told himself, “that just shows how stupid most people are!”

As he grew, his parents became concerned about this personality flaw, and pondered long and hard about what they should do. Finally, the father had an idea. And he struck a bargain with his son. He gave him a bag of nails, and a BIG hammer. “Whenever you lose your temper,” he told the boy, “I want you to really let it out. Just take a nail and drive it into the oak boards of that old fence out back. Hit that nail as hard as you can!”

Of course, those weathered oak boards in that old fence were almost as tough as iron, and the hammer was mighty heavy, so it wasn’t nearly as easy as it first sounded. Nevertheless, by the end of the first day, the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence (That was one angry young man!). Gradually, over a period of weeks, the number dwindled down. Holding his temper proved to be easier than driving nails into the fence! Finally the day came when the boy didn’t lose his temper at all. He felt mighty proud as he told his parents about that accomplishment.

“As a sign of your success,” his father responded, “you get to PULL OUT one nail. In fact, you can do that each day that you don’t lose your temper even once.”

Well, many weeks passed. Finally one day the young boy was able to report proudly that all the nails were gone.

At that point, the father asked his son to walk out back with him and take one more good look at the fence. “You have done well, my son,” he said. “But I want you to notice the holes that are left. No matter what happens from now on, this fence will never be the same. Saying or doing hurtful things in anger produces the same kind of result. There will always be a scar. It won’t matter how many times you say you’re sorry, or how many years pass, the scar will still be there. And a verbal wound is as bad as a physical one. People are much more valuable than an old fence. They make us smile. They help us succeed. Some will even become friends who share our joys, and support us through bad times. And, if they trust us, they will also open their hearts to us. That means we need to treat everyone with love and respect. We need to prevent as many of those scars as we can.”

A most valuable lesson, don’t you think? And a reminder most of us need from time to time. Everyone gets angry occasionally. The real test is what we DO with it.

If we are wise, we will spend our time building bridges rather than barriers in our relationships.

How to Say...... "NO"

When I will learn to say "No", I am very much upset and tired of my this habit that I never say "No" to any body or  don't have it in my blood to say "No" directly on very first instance.

Initially I agree the things then feel guilty on it, but again if the same situation arises, Again unable to say "No" and make others happy by troubling myself always.

Any body can say anything to me, can use to me in any situation as they may want, I am always available and ready for all, although in last I know putting myself in trouble, harming or degrading my own self respect.

No body will understand my feeling, or can be available for me same as I am for them, they just use me and forget, like use and throw type.

"Easily available to someone or anyone is always Harmful", I know it and want to follow it but, when the situation arise, A Good man in me always force me to Help or Guide, Why the Bad man is always being in silent mode, only wake up in isolation or in front of those who can not/Unable to help me either, Why can't I stand for myself where and where needed, I always take stand for others but for me I forget/keep mum when time calls.

The Good man in me who always think to be Nice to Everyone, Lovable to Everyone, makes me Bad and Hateful in my own Eyes.

"Neki kar, Dariya me daal" - "Do Good and Forget" - Nice Line/thought in hearing but in real life, a simple man can not or unable to follow it, Every one want something in return of Good Deed, Same simple/ordinary man me too. And this simple man is tired of becoming a extra ordinary man.

God Help me or Help Others.......!!!!!!

Happy Birth Day Sweetheart, My Lovely Wife...!!!

A small gift for u my dear for making My day, My Life so special ever and ever, 

Happy B'day Sweetheart...!!!!

I feel greatly blessed for the joy that I have for being with you and for celebrating another year of your life. I was thinking what gift I should give you, and then I realized that there are many things you would like to receive as a gift, but the most important thing for you is that I give you my unconditional love and the rest of my life and eternity with you.

You are a very beautiful, tender, loving and wonderful woman and so, in dates as special as this, I realize how lucky and successful I was for choosing you as my wife. There is no greater joy in this world than to have you in my life.

I do not want you to worry about the pass of time because every day that passes you get more and more beautiful and I love you more and more, so be happy and feel very happy to be celebrating your birthday.

I have lived the most beautiful moments of my life next to you, even all the problems and difficulties we have had to face have helped us to be better and to value the most important things in life.  I always remember fondly the first time I saw you and the love that was born in our hearts in that moment, I want you to know that I love you now even more and more intensely than ever.

We have many plans to do together and I know that if you and I try hard enough we can achieve all of them. For that reason my love, I want you to know that you will always be able to count with my unconditional love, my support and my company.

There are so many things that come into my mind as special as this occasion, and among other things I can remember our courtship and all the nice details and moments that we had with each other. So I want to live one more time that stage and fill our lives with those details and special moments one again.

On the bottom of my heart I knew you were the woman of my life and that eternity was waiting for us to live our love together forever. Today I know with all my heart that our love will last forever and you and that you and I will be together forever .

We have a beautiful family, wonderful children who fill our hearts with joy and happiness and there is nothing that makes me happier than being able to see that you are such a wonderful mother who takes good care of our children and provide them with your love and affection.

Thanks for making me the best man I could become, because your love inspires me to be better every day and continue conquering your heart like the time we first met .

I love you with all my heart.

Today's Girls(Bride) Expectation........!!!!!!

Today's Girls(Bride) Expectation from Marriage is changed a lot, which force us to think bit seriously.

1. Start from Profile search.. How he looks?

2. Whats the income?

3. Age (How much older to me.. Kahi jada budha to nahi.!!!!) ?

4. Family should be well settled and Rich.

5. Qualification should also be match.

6. Schooling - Should not from State Board, ICSE, CBSE then Ok.

7. If have Big Brother or Small Sister than there is a problem.

If All well from above than they can have a personnel meeting with family. Then the below list from family meeting.

8. Which Car they used for meeting, upper section makes good impression.

9. How's the Home or the location reputations they used for meeting.

10. Now family should not asked too much questions.

11. If they check on the girl, how mean they are...

12. Is Boy speaking properly or not. should not be stammer or fumble in any sense or mouth Geography.

13. Every thing should be proper in body, means in shape.

14. how he looks, if stand with me in marriage rituals.

15. What will be the reaction of my friends and relative on his looks?

16. Is he well wrapped with Big Brands or not?

17. In-Laws should not be old/demanding/commanding or lazy.

If all Fine then the expectation from Groom/In-Laws

1. Should give freedom to roam, shop, chat, whats-app, Facebook, job, friends, sleep etc.

2. Never force to stop going to parents home.

3. There should not be any quarrel regarding money.

4. All wishes should be fulfill.

5. Will not take any responsibilities beside now I am your responsibility.

6. Cooking, A big Sorry, Only when Want or Wish or sometimes but with her own Menu.

7. Home should be full equipped with WiFi and luxuries.

8. Should take to out of India for Honeymoon or sometimes for sure. 

9. There should not be any interference in Husband wife relation from any body. ( there's family is exception)

10. Children Noooo.... not too early.

11. Only 2 kid that's too by operation only, love my figure.

12. Never shout, force, always understand feelings and be like her Papa, Coz he is the Best man of Her Life.

these are the few things which I am able to compile in very sort span of Time/Life/Marriage, Many more still undiscovered by me. 

So if these rules would be follows by the Groom, Marriages will happen and sustain during a long periods in Today's Generation.

!!!!......The Secret of Success......!!!!