जीवन संघर्ष

Once upon a time a daughter complained to her father that her life was miserable and that she didn’t know how she was going to make it. She was tired of fighting and struggling all the time. It seemed just as one problem was solved, another one soon followed. Her father, a chef, took her to the kitchen. He filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire.

Once the three pots began to boil, he placed potatoes in one pot, eggs in the second pot and ground coffee beans in the third pot. He then let them sit and boil, without saying a word to his daughter. The daughter, moaned and impatiently waited, wondering what he was doing. After twenty minutes he turned off the burners. He took the potatoes out of the pot and placed them in a bowl. He pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. He then ladled the coffee out and placed it in a cup.

Turning to her, he asked. “Daughter, what do you see?” “Potatoes, eggs and coffee,” she hastily replied.

“Look closer”, he said, “and touch the potatoes.” She did and noted that they were soft.

He then asked her to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg.

Finally, he asked her to sip the coffee. Its rich aroma brought a smile to her face.

“Father, what does this mean?” she asked.

He then explained that the potatoes, the eggs and coffee beans had each faced the same adversity-the boiling water. However, each one reacted differently. The potato went in strong, hard and unrelenting, but in boiling water, it became soft and weak. The egg was fragile, with the thin outer shell protecting its liquid interior until it was put in the boiling water. Then the inside of the egg became hard. However, the ground coffee beans were unique. After they were exposed to the boiling water, they changed the water and created something new.

“Which one are you?” he asked his daughter. “When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a potato, an egg, or a coffee bean?”

Moral: In life, things happen around us, things happen to us, but the only thing that truly matters is how you choose to react to it and what you make out of it. Life is all about leaning, adopting and converting all the struggles that we experience into something positive.

Struggles for School Admissions in Delhi 2013 on-words......(Mehnat Karane Walo ki Haar Nahi hoti)

Today I am feeling extremely happy to share with you all that finally I got succeeded in securing a seat for my child in a prestigious school of Delhi. My battle with All Schools from Since Last 3 Years finally come to an End. No body can ever think about conditions and difficulty faced by parents in Delhi for their kids to get admitted in Schools. The conditions become worse, if you don't have any sibling or Alumni point ready with you. Location where you stay also plays a vital role to get selected or for opting the best schools. 

I never thought about this at the time of purchasing a flat in Mehrauli area. The oldest and well known famous area of Delhi, have a major draw back for school selection as all school situated more than 5 km area from here and the Bus routes of school also not lie in with-in. If I Knew it earlier rather I would have preferred to stay on rent in the area like, Kalu Sarai, Vasant Vihar or Vasant Kunj. 

No body can ever imagine that, when i jumped in to this field of selection, after knowing all this drawbacks, I applied to 37 Schools of Delhi for my ward admission including all best and worst schools. God knows what will happen as from few parent's experience, they were unable to get a single seat after so many phases of selections.

This was the very first phase of disappointment and frustration to run all over the South Delhi area to fill the 37 schools forms, many more difficulties and frustration still waiting for all of us, as there were changes in the point system of Delhi admission criteria, The DOE introduced a new 5 points for interstate transfer cases and every one applied with the same having fake certificate or documents. So due to this Alumni belt was also disappointed as the transfer case were standing with them and getting admission being in more number and probabilities. So this was the year of court cases, one after another, there were more than 15 cases with the court to decide what will be the fate of Delhi nursery admissions and applicants.

So case after case, case against case, We were forced to run from one school to another for lottery as being in less point category we were on the mercy of Siblings, Alumni, Transfer cases, if they left the seat we all approx 2500+ candidate assembled for lottery, which decide few lucky one from them in numbers not more than 10/15.

This process took months, as process started from mid December 2013 and ended in May 2014, in between this I faced more than 60 round of lotteries and was unable to secure a seat in waiting list too. But thanks to God and St. Anthony School because they allotted a seat for my daughter as there were number of candidate less being a Girls Catholic School.

Now I was with seat but not satisfied as this was not my first or in between 20th choice from the list of filling forms. So I kept an Eye with the process going on but i didn't got more than frustration and disappointment. Now When all process stopped and the summer vacation of my daughter started, I got call from few more schools like Bloom and Manav Bharti, but due to 3 month passed and financial factor, I opted to stay in St. Anthony. In September I got call from Apeejay Saket but i simply refused it, cause it didn't make any sense to change school in September.

Now year change, I again jumped in the field of admission this year for KG class, as Nursery class was over with St. Anthony School. This year option were very less as only few school opened their admission with few vacant seats in the class, even I too had the less choice of schools as I already had a seat and only would opt schools from best School List. But the frustration and disappointment again caught me with full force and not let me to give any single point to be happy. We faced interviews, Lotteries, Tests but again empty handed, back to old school for KG Class. 

This all happened with me but I was too determined to fight again and again with this point systems based on various factor which was not favorable for us. 2016, I again in this admission field to fight and win a seat for my ward, Again I start applying from Jan on-words but with very few options not able to secure one seat. 

Point was against us but this time GOD was with me, as my daughter selected in Apeejay Shekh Sarai with her caliber to crack a seat in Entrance Test. We were very happy but due to financial factor, Teaching methodology, not value for the money factor held our hand to deposit the fees. Somewhere we were disappointed but  we assured our self with hope that may be something best is awaiting us in future, Even everyone suggested me to take admission, my inner soul didn't allowed me to go for it. 

We again started to send our daughter to educate in previous school with filling all fees, Dress purchasing and books. NO Body knows when the fate will change, and this happens to us as first time my daughter got selected in a lottery in DPS VK. I was overwhelmed to hear her name and with in hours i was over with all formalities, admitted her, purchased new books, dress and all.

Now the time of celebration for us, as We WON the battle of Points and admission which we started 3 year back. As we know the more happiness is also unable to digest, we again fell into deli-ma, that are we doing good or not as in comparison, previous school was looking more sound in academics. Again we discussed it with many parents, friends and relatives and came on the conclusion that it will be the best for our daughter in long run as be in the best school in India and DPS brand matters a lot in child's education, confidence and exposure with necessary Co-Ed education in today's scenario.

Sugar Story - "Mahatma Gandhi"

Dead Boy Friend - A Sad Story

Be Deaf..... ......Be Positive.!!!!

Value of Relationship - (Temper can Hamper the Relations)

Once upon a time there was a little boy who was talented, creative, handsome, and extremely bright. A natural leader. The kind of person everyone would normally have wanted on their team or project. But he was also self-centered and had a very bad temper. When he got angry, he usually said, and often did, some very hurtful things. In fact, he seemed to have little regard for those around him. Even friends. So, naturally, he had few. “But,” he told himself, “that just shows how stupid most people are!”

As he grew, his parents became concerned about this personality flaw, and pondered long and hard about what they should do. Finally, the father had an idea. And he struck a bargain with his son. He gave him a bag of nails, and a BIG hammer. “Whenever you lose your temper,” he told the boy, “I want you to really let it out. Just take a nail and drive it into the oak boards of that old fence out back. Hit that nail as hard as you can!”

Of course, those weathered oak boards in that old fence were almost as tough as iron, and the hammer was mighty heavy, so it wasn’t nearly as easy as it first sounded. Nevertheless, by the end of the first day, the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence (That was one angry young man!). Gradually, over a period of weeks, the number dwindled down. Holding his temper proved to be easier than driving nails into the fence! Finally the day came when the boy didn’t lose his temper at all. He felt mighty proud as he told his parents about that accomplishment.

“As a sign of your success,” his father responded, “you get to PULL OUT one nail. In fact, you can do that each day that you don’t lose your temper even once.”

Well, many weeks passed. Finally one day the young boy was able to report proudly that all the nails were gone.

At that point, the father asked his son to walk out back with him and take one more good look at the fence. “You have done well, my son,” he said. “But I want you to notice the holes that are left. No matter what happens from now on, this fence will never be the same. Saying or doing hurtful things in anger produces the same kind of result. There will always be a scar. It won’t matter how many times you say you’re sorry, or how many years pass, the scar will still be there. And a verbal wound is as bad as a physical one. People are much more valuable than an old fence. They make us smile. They help us succeed. Some will even become friends who share our joys, and support us through bad times. And, if they trust us, they will also open their hearts to us. That means we need to treat everyone with love and respect. We need to prevent as many of those scars as we can.”

A most valuable lesson, don’t you think? And a reminder most of us need from time to time. Everyone gets angry occasionally. The real test is what we DO with it.

If we are wise, we will spend our time building bridges rather than barriers in our relationships.

How to Say...... "NO"

When I will learn to say "No", I am very much upset and tired of my this habit that I never say "No" to any body or  don't have it in my blood to say "No" directly on very first instance.

Initially I agree the things then feel guilty on it, but again if the same situation arises, Again unable to say "No" and make others happy by troubling myself always.

Any body can say anything to me, can use to me in any situation as they may want, I am always available and ready for all, although in last I know putting myself in trouble, harming or degrading my own self respect.

No body will understand my feeling, or can be available for me same as I am for them, they just use me and forget, like use and throw type.

"Easily available to someone or anyone is always Harmful", I know it and want to follow it but, when the situation arise, A Good man in me always force me to Help or Guide, Why the Bad man is always being in silent mode, only wake up in isolation or in front of those who can not/Unable to help me either, Why can't I stand for myself where and where needed, I always take stand for others but for me I forget/keep mum when time calls.

The Good man in me who always think to be Nice to Everyone, Lovable to Everyone, makes me Bad and Hateful in my own Eyes.

"Neki kar, Dariya me daal" - "Do Good and Forget" - Nice Line/thought in hearing but in real life, a simple man can not or unable to follow it, Every one want something in return of Good Deed, Same simple/ordinary man me too. And this simple man is tired of becoming a extra ordinary man.

God Help me or Help Others.......!!!!!!