How to Say...... "NO"

When I will learn to say "No", I am very much upset and tired of my this habit that I never say "No" to any body or  don't have it in my blood to say "No" directly on very first instance.

Initially I agree the things then feel guilty on it, but again if the same situation arises, Again unable to say "No" and make others happy by troubling myself always.

Any body can say anything to me, can use to me in any situation as they may want, I am always available and ready for all, although in last I know putting myself in trouble, harming or degrading my own self respect.

No body will understand my feeling, or can be available for me same as I am for them, they just use me and forget, like use and throw type.

"Easily available to someone or anyone is always Harmful", I know it and want to follow it but, when the situation arise, A Good man in me always force me to Help or Guide, Why the Bad man is always being in silent mode, only wake up in isolation or in front of those who can not/Unable to help me either, Why can't I stand for myself where and where needed, I always take stand for others but for me I forget/keep mum when time calls.

The Good man in me who always think to be Nice to Everyone, Lovable to Everyone, makes me Bad and Hateful in my own Eyes.

"Neki kar, Dariya me daal" - "Do Good and Forget" - Nice Line/thought in hearing but in real life, a simple man can not or unable to follow it, Every one want something in return of Good Deed, Same simple/ordinary man me too. And this simple man is tired of becoming a extra ordinary man.

God Help me or Help Others.......!!!!!!

Happy Birth Day Sweetheart, My Lovely Wife...!!!

A small gift for u my dear for making My day, My Life so special ever and ever, 

Happy B'day Sweetheart...!!!!

I feel greatly blessed for the joy that I have for being with you and for celebrating another year of your life. I was thinking what gift I should give you, and then I realized that there are many things you would like to receive as a gift, but the most important thing for you is that I give you my unconditional love and the rest of my life and eternity with you.

You are a very beautiful, tender, loving and wonderful woman and so, in dates as special as this, I realize how lucky and successful I was for choosing you as my wife. There is no greater joy in this world than to have you in my life.

I do not want you to worry about the pass of time because every day that passes you get more and more beautiful and I love you more and more, so be happy and feel very happy to be celebrating your birthday.

I have lived the most beautiful moments of my life next to you, even all the problems and difficulties we have had to face have helped us to be better and to value the most important things in life.  I always remember fondly the first time I saw you and the love that was born in our hearts in that moment, I want you to know that I love you now even more and more intensely than ever.

We have many plans to do together and I know that if you and I try hard enough we can achieve all of them. For that reason my love, I want you to know that you will always be able to count with my unconditional love, my support and my company.

There are so many things that come into my mind as special as this occasion, and among other things I can remember our courtship and all the nice details and moments that we had with each other. So I want to live one more time that stage and fill our lives with those details and special moments one again.

On the bottom of my heart I knew you were the woman of my life and that eternity was waiting for us to live our love together forever. Today I know with all my heart that our love will last forever and you and that you and I will be together forever .

We have a beautiful family, wonderful children who fill our hearts with joy and happiness and there is nothing that makes me happier than being able to see that you are such a wonderful mother who takes good care of our children and provide them with your love and affection.

Thanks for making me the best man I could become, because your love inspires me to be better every day and continue conquering your heart like the time we first met .

I love you with all my heart.

Today's Girls(Bride) Expectation........!!!!!!

Today's Girls(Bride) Expectation from Marriage is changed a lot, which force us to think bit seriously.

1. Start from Profile search.. How he looks?

2. Whats the income?

3. Age (How much older to me.. Kahi jada budha to nahi.!!!!) ?

4. Family should be well settled and Rich.

5. Qualification should also be match.

6. Schooling - Should not from State Board, ICSE, CBSE then Ok.

7. If have Big Brother or Small Sister than there is a problem.

If All well from above than they can have a personnel meeting with family. Then the below list from family meeting.

8. Which Car they used for meeting, upper section makes good impression.

9. How's the Home or the location reputations they used for meeting.

10. Now family should not asked too much questions.

11. If they check on the girl, how mean they are...

12. Is Boy speaking properly or not. should not be stammer or fumble in any sense or mouth Geography.

13. Every thing should be proper in body, means in shape.

14. how he looks, if stand with me in marriage rituals.

15. What will be the reaction of my friends and relative on his looks?

16. Is he well wrapped with Big Brands or not?

17. In-Laws should not be old/demanding/commanding or lazy.

If all Fine then the expectation from Groom/In-Laws

1. Should give freedom to roam, shop, chat, whats-app, Facebook, job, friends, sleep etc.

2. Never force to stop going to parents home.

3. There should not be any quarrel regarding money.

4. All wishes should be fulfill.

5. Will not take any responsibilities beside now I am your responsibility.

6. Cooking, A big Sorry, Only when Want or Wish or sometimes but with her own Menu.

7. Home should be full equipped with WiFi and luxuries.

8. Should take to out of India for Honeymoon or sometimes for sure. 

9. There should not be any interference in Husband wife relation from any body. ( there's family is exception)

10. Children Noooo.... not too early.

11. Only 2 kid that's too by operation only, love my figure.

12. Never shout, force, always understand feelings and be like her Papa, Coz he is the Best man of Her Life.

these are the few things which I am able to compile in very sort span of Time/Life/Marriage, Many more still undiscovered by me. 

So if these rules would be follows by the Groom, Marriages will happen and sustain during a long periods in Today's Generation.

!!!!......The Secret of Success......!!!!

I m too much Tired....!!!!

Thak Gaya Hu Teri Naukri Se Ae Jindagi
Munaasib Hoga Tu Mera Hisab Kar De..!

Dosto Se Bichad Kar Ye Hakikat Khuli
Beshak Kamine The Par Rounak Unhi Se Thi..!

Bhari Jeb Ne Duniya Ki Pehchan Karwai
Khali Jeb Ne Insaano Ki..!

Samjha nahi kisi ne humko

Sabko apane sapane pyare

un sapno ko pura kanme me

chahe hum apana sab haare..!

Jab Paise Lage Kamane to Samaj Mei Aaya
shouk To Maa Baap Ke Paiso Se Pure Hote The
Apne Paiso Se to Sirf Jarurate Puri Hoti Hai..!

kuch log hume apana kahate

kuch log paraya kahate hai

jiski jaisi jarurat hai

hum usko waise dikhate hai..!

Kuch Sahi To Kuch Kharab Kehte Hai

Log Hme Bigda Hua Nawaab Kehte Hai
Hum To  Badnaam Hue Kuch Is Kadar
Ki Pani Bhi Piye To Log Sharaab Kehte Hai...!

Samjha Samjha is duniya ko

ab hum to hare buri tarah

lagata hai sab kuch chhod chale

us mast bifikre hathi ki tarah..!

जीवन एक संघर्ष

बाज लगभग ७० वर्ष जीता है, परन्तु अपने जीवन के ४०वें वर्ष में आते आते उसे एक महत्वपूर्ण निर्णय लेना पड़ता है।

उस अवस्था में उसके शरीर के तीन प्रमुख अंग निष्प्रभावी होने लगते हैं-

पंजे लम्बे और लचीले हो जाते है व शिकार पर पकड़ बनाने में अक्षम होने लगते हैं।

चोंच आगे की ओर मुड़ जाती है और भोजन निकालने में व्यवधान उत्पन्न करने लगती है।

पंख भारी हो जाते हैं, और सीने से चिपकने के कारण पूरे खुल नहीं पाते हैं, उड़ानें सीमित कर देते हैं।

भोजन ढूँढ़ना, भोजन पकड़ना और भोजन खाना, तीनों प्रक्रियायें अपनी धार खोने लगती हैं।

उसके पास तीन ही विकल्प बचते हैं, या तो देह त्याग दे, या अपनी प्रवृत्ति छोड़ गिद्ध की तरह त्यक्त भोजन पर निर्वाह करे...

या फिर स्वयं को पुनर्स्थापित करे, आकाश के निर्द्वन्द्व एकाधिपति के रूप में।

जहाँ पहले दो विकल्प सरल और त्वरित हैं, वहीं तीसरा अत्यन्त पीड़ादायी और लम्बा।

बाज पीड़ा चुनता है और स्वयं को पुनर्स्थापित करता है।

वह किसी ऊँचे पहाड़ पर जाता है,

एकान्त में अपना घोंसला बनाता है, और तब प्रारम्भ करता है पूरी प्रक्रिया।

सबसे पहले वह अपनी चोंच चट्टान पर मार मार कर तोड़ देता है..

अपनी चोंच तोड़ने से अधिक पीड़ादायक कुछ भी नहीं पक्षीराज के लिये। तब वह प्रतीक्षा करता है चोंच के पुनः उग आने की।

उसके बाद वह अपने पंजे भी उसी प्रकार तोड़ देता है और प्रतीक्षा करता है पंजों के पुनः उग आने की।

नये चोंच और पंजे आने के बाद वह अपने भारी पंखों को एक एक कर नोंच कर निकालता है और प्रतीक्षा करता पंखों के पुनः उग आने की।

१५० दिन की पीड़ा और प्रतीक्षा...

और तब उसे मिलती है वही भव्य और ऊँची उड़ान, पहले जैसी नयी।

इस पुनर्स्थापना के बाद वह ३० साल और जीता है, ऊर्जा, सम्मान और गरिमा के साथ।

प्रकृति हमें सिखाने बैठी है-

पंजे पकड़ के प्रतीक हैं, चोंच सक्रियता की, और पंख कल्पना को स्थापित करते हैं।

इच्छा परिस्थितियों पर नियन्त्रण बनाये रखने की,

सक्रियता स्वयं के अस्तित्व की गरिमा बनाये रखने की,कल्पना जीवन में कुछ नयापन बनाये रखने की।

इच्छा, सक्रियता और कल्पना, तीनों के तीनों निर्बल पड़ने लगते हैं, हममें भी, चालीस तक आते आते।

हमारा व्यक्तित्व ही ढीला पड़ने लगता है, अर्धजीवन में ही जीवन समाप्तप्राय सा लगने लगता है, उत्साह, आकांक्षा, ऊर्जा अधोगामी हो जाते हैं।

हमारे पास भी कई विकल्प होते हैं- कुछ सरल और त्वरित, कुछ पीड़ादायी।

हमें भी अपने जीवन के विवशता भरे अतिलचीलेपन को त्याग कर नियन्त्रण दिखाना होगा-बाज के पंजों की तरह।

हमें भी आलस्य उत्पन्न करने वाली वक्र मानसिकता को त्याग कर ऊर्जस्वित सक्रियता दिखानी होगी-बाज की चोंच की तरह।

हमें भी भूतकाल में जकड़े अस्तित्व के भारीपन को त्याग कर कल्पना की उन्मुक्त उड़ाने भरनी होंगी-बाज के पंखों की तरह।

१५० दिन न सही, तो एक माह ही बिताया जाये, स्वयं को पुनर्स्थापित करने में। 

जो शरीर और मन से चिपका हुआ है, उसे तोड़ने और नोंचने में पीड़ा तो होगी ही,

बाज तब उड़ानें भरने को तैयार होंगे, इस बार उड़ानें और ऊँची होंगी, अनुभवी होंगी, अनन्तगामी होंगी।I

Why We Shout In Anger - A Short Story

“Why We Shout In Anger”

A Hindu saint who was visiting river Ganges to take bath found a group of family members on the banks, shouting in anger at each other.

He turned to his disciples smiled ‘n asked. ‘Why do people shout in anger shout at each other?’

Disciples thought for a while, one of them said, ‘Because we lose our calm, we shout.’ ‘But, why should you shout when the other person is just next to you? You can as well tell him what you have to say in a soft manner.’ asked the saint.

Disciples gave some other answers but none satisfied the other disciples. Finally the saint explained, ‘When two people are angry at each other, their hearts distance a lot. To cover that distance they must shout to be able to hear each other.

The angrier they are, the stronger they will have to shout to hear each other to cover that great distance.

What happens when two people fall in love? They don’t shout at each other but talk softly, because their hearts are very close. The distance between them is either non-existent or very small…’ The saint continued, ‘When they love each other even more, what happens? They do not speak, only whisper ‘n they get even closer to each other in their love.

Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at each other ‘n that’s all. That is how close two people are when they love each other. ‘He looked at his disciples ‘n said. ‘So when you argue do not let your hearts get distant, Do not say words that distance each other more, Or else there will come a day when the distance is so great that you will not find the path to return.’